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Hookup Culture On The Rise Amongst Young Adults
Ahhh College! Socially speaking, it’s (traditionally) a time of both exploration and definition for young adults. Many college students will have their first serious relationships during this phase in their lives (sometimes creating bonds that even lead to lifelong friendships, marriage, or even fond memories of the one that got away).
An author contends in her new book that young romance may be getting ditched in favor today’s increasingly ‘quick hook-up’ culture. The book is titled “The End of Sex: How Hookup Culture is Leaving a Generation Unhappy, Sexually Unfulfilled, and Confused About Intimacy.” Not only are more college students hooking up — kissing, making out and having sex — but these experiences often leave them feeling empty, sad and regretful, author Donna Freitas argues.
The argument on whether dating culture has evolved or devolved can best be answered by college students themselves. According to a study by the Kinsey Institute, roughly 1 in 2 college aged students engage in quick intimacy behavior not only to satisfy a desire for sexual pleasure but also in hopes their actions will spark a romantic relationship of some sort with their partner. Additionally, the research also found that some students viewed casual hook-ups as a no strings win/win alternative to getting caught up in a serious relationship at this juncture in their lives.
The pursuit of meaningful relationships is hardwired into all normal functioning adults. Hookup culture as one aspect of dating culture is here to stay. Don’t allow this topic to be taboo between you and your child. Discussing various pros and cons of dating from a parental or mentor standpoint can only help them to make decisions on what will work best at various stages in their lives.