got a teenage daughter who i just found out she lost her virginity while she was supposed to be under her fathers supervision. Very devastated by that and we are dealing with it...found home videos on one my old cell phones of her dancing like a stripper....at age 14..shes entering high school in september and im afraid its going to get worse..Shes the type of child thats very non chalant...sneaky and doesnt seem to care about nothing at all my talks arent working and im running out of disciplinary actions...If you have any suggestions...PLEASE!!! im open to try anything to get her back on track
The damage is already done but you still have time! Get her on birth control and make sure she gets an STD/STI screening every 6 months. Teenagers like to do things they arent suppose to do its an adrenaline rush! So not to say condone it but being that its gonna be done regardless wouldnt you like to at least know and know she is safe? When I started having sex I was 15 and once my mom found out it was like ehhhh why bother lol hope this helps
BTW with teens its like quick sand... the more you panic the faster you sink!
Also - just thought about this, maybe you need to take the cell phone away temporarily or change her service to something basic where she can't text pictures? Worst thing that could happen is if she sends a provocative video or picture to a friend and it ends up spreading at school or the Internet! She needs to understand that that's a risk too!
Sorry to hear that Tia! Unfortunately, most of us face challenges like these with our children, and don't always have full control of them, no matter how well we keep tabs on them.
Do you think it might be influence from friends? Or even things she is watching on TV or hearing from music?
I suggest engaging her in extra curricular activities, so that she won't even have the time for things like these. Also, talk to her about the risks of pregnancy and STDs. Maybe take her to a local women's shelter or Planned Parenthood, where someone can talk to her. Sometimes it helps to hear from someone else, to realize what risks she's taking. Maybe you can have her doctor talk to her at her next appointment or physical? She needs to understand that she has her whole life ahead of her and there's a lot more out there for her than this.
And definitely build a strong relationship with her! If she feels she can come to you about anything, then hopefully things will start getting back on track soon.